About a month ago I was having a conversation with a friend, she told me something that blew me away.
“Whenever I find myself worrying about anything — work-related or otherwise — I ask myself this, ‘Is there anything I can do to control the situation?’ If the answer is yes, I work toward a solution. If the answer is no, I tell myself, ‘Gravity,’ and move on.”
“Gravity?” I asked.
“Yes, gravity,” she responded, “as in I don’t have any control and I should just let it happen.”
Until the turn of the new year, I’ve had a hard time accepting things I cannot change — specifically in the workplace. I’ve been trying hard to change that, and I’ve made some (minor) strides. Since hearing her train of thought, believe it or not, it’s become much easier.
Being a passionate person, it’s hard for me to see the company I work for not do things as well as it could … but “Gravity.”
There’s only so much stress and high blood pressure my body can take before breaking down. It’s taken me over two years to realize this (coincidentally, I’ve been in my new position for — you guessed it — over two years), but as they say, “Better late than never.”
Sure, I give suggestions and sometimes I feel they go unheard (I tell myself unheard rather than ignored, because it makes me feel better if it’s just unheard rather than ignored — consider it a coping mechanism) much of the time … again, “Gravity.”
Last night, for the first time in my life, I meditated. With the help of this video by Mary, a Twitter friend who’s all kinds of awesome, I took five minutes and gave it a shot. I felt great afterward. She just started a five-part meditation series on her blog — it’s linked over in the rail — and it’s a read I recommend — whether you’re looking to start meditating or not. In fact, I recommend you read her blog period. (So, there’s that.)
I am not saying anything I’m writing is guaranteed to help you. I am simply passing along some stress reducing techniques in a world that’s full of stress.
The next time you find yourself stressing about a situation, run the scenario out in your head. Can you control the situation? Yes? Solve it. No? Gravity.